What Women Think When Men Are Naked

Dr Pam Spurr

Uncovered: what she really thinks of your body

Behaviour expert Dr Pam Spurr shares the inside scoop on what women are thinking when they see you naked.

Guys know that when you see a woman naked there are often plenty of thoughts racing through their mind, some which might be in conflict. For example, "she looks hot... but is she really up for it? And with me?" But they are your thoughts, so at least you know your own mind.

Equally, her mind can be a hive of activity when she catches sight of your body, whether it's the first time or further down the line. But what is she thinking exactly? You might be surprised by some of what goes on in the female mind.

Read on to learn everything you need to know about 10 things she's thinking when she sees you naked.

So that's what he wears underneath...

So that's what he wears underneath... She will have been wondering if you're a briefs-or-boxers type of guy. Women read so much about your personality - or try to - from the style and colour/pattern of your underwear. She's already been having a lot of fun guessing who you are and what you're about from the way you speak and from your body language. What type of underwear you sport is one of the next pieces of the puzzle in her assessment of you. Whatever brand they are, or what style, just make sure they're clean!

Oh my, let's take a look at his private package...

Oh my, let's take a look at his private package... Yes, she looks at the 'whole package' but she also looks at 'the' package. Some surprising research from the Centre for Behavioural Neuroscience in 2007 found that women take a peek at your genitals very quickly indeed, in fact quicker than when your eyes wander 'down below' on her. It's thought that this is a natural biologically-based response, particularly if she's at the fertility peak of her cycle. Be confident, relax and let her take a good look!

So he's got a few lumps and bumps...

So he's got a few lumps and bumps... Women aren't by nature overly critical and although her eyes might skim over any excess weight that you're carrying, as long as you're confident in the bedroom it won't matter. Overwhelmingly women find confident men a turn on. She'll be picking up subtle cues from the way you move and speak that signal you feel good about what is going on between you. These are far more important to her than if she notices a spare tyre around your middle.

Your scent of seduction...

Your scent of seduction... Stale sweat is a definite turnoff and a subconscious message of poor hygiene and maybe even poor health. But - and it's a big 'but' - fresh sweat is chock-full of your pheromones and MHCs** - the manly smells that women love and that can influence levels of attraction. It goes without saying that you don't have to greet her straight from the gym but don't overuse shower gels and aftershaves either. A little goes a long way and stick with the more masculine smells that mimic pheromones.

** Research reported in Behaviour Ecology 2003

He has soft areas too...

He has soft areas too... As she gets to know your body through exploring your erogenous zones she'll be surprised to find that you have soft areas too. Women are so much more used to the rougher feel of your hands and your five o'clock shadow that it's a nice surprise discovering your lower abdomen, the inside of your thighs and that your wrists are smooth and soft. She may want to spend time gently kissing and caressing these erogenous zones too, particularly with your encouragement.

Can he tell I'm nervous too...

Can he tell I'm nervous too... Women are great at picking up male nervousness and as long as it's not extreme nerves she'll breathe a sigh of relief. She'll feel a warm sense of empathy towards your nerves and wonder if you can tell she's also nervous. This can deepen a fledgling emotional bond that you and she are equals when it comes to wanting things to go well. This ultimately can lead to a better sexual bond.

Please hold me tight...

Please hold me tight... If she has any nerves - particularly if this is your first time together - when she sees you naked she may feel in need of some big, affectionate cuddles. Take your time before you get into serious foreplay and make sure your foreplay includes some good, loving affection. A new boyfriend standing there big-and-in-the-buff and who wants to jump straight into a quickie can be daunting for some women.

I love his shoulders...

I love his shoulders... A key physical cue of your masculinity is knowing that your shoulders are wider than hers. Her eyeline is drawn to them even if you don't feel that they're particularly broad. Your broad shoulders immediately give her a sense of your physical differences - and vive la différence when it comes to the bedroom! Make sure she gets a good look as you peel off your shirt slowly and confidently.

The 'windows' to your soul...

The 'windows' to your soul... Keep your eyes focused on her while at the same time keeping the lighting low if and when you are seducing her. University of Edinburgh researchers in 2009 showed that women are attracted to men with large pupils. Subconsciously she picks up that you're sexually attracted to her as enlarged pupils are a natural physical reaction when you find someone attractive. As the heat in the bedroom rises with foreplay she'll notice if you're giving her good eye contact - which is attractive anyway despite pupil size. Or if you're avoiding eye contact, she might read this as a lack of confidence.

I hope he's not comparing me to his ex

I hope he's not comparing me to his ex... As you two get naked - particularly if it's at your place and she knows your ex used to hang out there - she wants you to only have eyes for her. She wonders if the two of you together, in your bedroom, brings back other memories of your ex.

Focus entirely on her, ask what she would like and what you can do to please her and she'll soon forget such niggles.