Unexcited? There May Be a Pill for That
Jake Chessum for The New York Times
By DANIEL BERGNER
Linneah sat at a desk at the Center for Sexual Medicine at Sheppard
Pratt in the suburbs of Baltimore and filled out a questionnaire. She
read briskly, making swift checks beside her selected answers, and when
she was finished, she handed the pages across the desk to Martina
Miller, who gave her a round of pills.
The pills were either a placebo or a new drug called Lybrido, created to
stoke sexual desire in women. Checking her computer, Miller pointed out
gently that Linneah hadn’t been doing her duty as a study participant.
Over the past eight weeks, she took the tablets before she planned to
have sex, and for every time she put a pill on her tongue, she was
supposed to make an entry in her online diary about her level of lust.
“I know, I know,” Linneah said. She is a 44-year-old part-time
elementary-school teacher, and that day she wore red pants and a canary
yellow scarf. (She asked that only a nickname be used to protect her
privacy.) “It’s a mess. I keep forgetting.”
Miller, a study coordinator, began a short interview, typing Linneah’s
replies into a database that the medication’s Dutch inventor, Adriaan
Tuiten, will present to the Food and Drug Administration this summer or
fall as part of his campaign to win the agency’s approval and begin
marketing what might become the first female-desire drug in America.
“Thinking about your desire now,” Miller said, “would you say it is
absent, very low, low, reasonable or present?”
“Low."This was no different from Linneah’s reply at the trial’s outset two months before.
“When your partner initiated sexual activity over the past eight weeks, did you show avoidance behavior?”
“Yes.”
“Like earlier to bed?”
“Yes.” Linneah’s voice lurched louder; she laughed; it was a relief to talk bluntly.
“Do you have pleasant feelings when you’re touched?”
“Yes.”
Later, after her appointment, she told me that in fact she has orgasms
pretty much every time she and her husband have sex — that wasn’t the
problem. “There’s something that’s stopping me from wanting it,” she said. “I don’t know what it is. I can’t tell you what it is.”
She met her husband at a bar nearly two decades ago: she joked with him
over a foosball table, watched him clown on the dance floor. “I had a
professor at college who talked about ‘the attraction template.’ My
husband’s right inside my attraction template,” she said. She remembered
his dark hair, his boyish looks, the way she’d felt they fit together,
because they were both on the short side. “And he’s a stand-up guy. He
has an excellent sense of what’s right and what’s wrong. He can make fun
but not in a way that hurts anyone.”
When they were dating and out with other couples, Linneah would think,
“I just want to get home with him, I just want to get home with him,”
she recalled. But that lust had dwindled. Around the arrival of their
second child in 2004, something insidious crept in, partly fatigue but
partly something else that she couldn’t name. She talked about her to-do
lists, the demands of the kids, “but let’s face it,” she said, “sex
doesn’t take that much time.” Rather than feeling as if she still wanted
to grab her husband’s hand and hurry him up the stairs in their small
brick house, on many nights she waited in bed, somewhat like prey,
though the predator was tender, though he was cherished.
Around once a week, her husband tried to reach through the invisible
barriers she built — the going up to bed early, the intense
concentration on a book, the hoping he was too tired to want anything
but sleep. “He’ll move closer to me in bed, or put his arm around me, or
rub my back.” She willed herself not to refuse him. And mostly, she
didn’t. Usually they had sex about four times each month. But it upset
her that she had to force herself and that she put up those barriers to
deter him from reaching more often.
“I’m scared that if it’s slimmed to this by now, what’s going to happen
as we get older?” she said. “I want to stay close, not just
psychologically, physically. I want to stay in love. I have a friend,
they have sex so intermittently, every three months. She is so unhappy. I
don’t want that to happen to me.” She longed for a cure, a tab of
magic. As she got into her car in the parking lot at the center, she
hoped that her first set of pills had been placebos, that she’d been
given fakes for the first eight weeks, that today she was driving away
with the real drug and that their sex life would be transformed.
Half a century ago, the birth-control pill offered women the ability to
switch off ovulation, to separate sex from reproduction. It played a
part, as the ‘60s got under way, in propelling a host of profound
changes, cultural as well as reproductive, societal as well as intimate —
in how women saw themselves and lived their lives, starting with the
notion of women being above all baby makers and mothers. The promise of
Lybrido and of a similar medication called Lybridos, which Tuiten also
has in trials, or of whatever chemical finally wins the race for F.D.A.
approval, is that it will be possible to take a next step, to give women
the power to switch on lust, to free desire from the obstacles that get
in its way. “Female Viagra” is the way drugs like Lybrido and Lybridos
tend to be discussed. But this is a misconception. Viagra meddles with
the arteries; it causes physical shifts that allow the penis to rise. A
female-desire drug would be something else. It would adjust the primal
and executive regions of the brain. It would reach into the psyche.
Jake Chessum for The New York Times
Beckoned by ads on the radio and in newspapers and on
Craigslist, in the fall of 2011 women across America began applying to
be among the 420 subjects in the Lybrido and Lybridos studies. Plenty
were turned away when the trials filled. Lack of lust, when it creates
emotional distress, meets the psychiatric profession’s clinical criteria
for H.S.D.D., or hypoactive sexual-desire disorder. Researchers have
set its prevalence among women between the ages of about 20 and 60 at
between 10 and 15 percent. When you count the women who don’t quite meet
the elaborate clinical threshold, the rate rises to around 30 percent.
For a minor fraction of all the sexually indifferent (or repelled), the
condition has been lifelong, regardless of whom they’re with or how long
they’ve been with them. For middle-aged or older women, menopause and
its aftermath may play a role, though its importance is much debated.
For a sizable segment of the undesiring, the most common
antidepressants, the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, can be the
culprit. Millions of American women are on S.S.R.I.'s, and many of them
would have good use for a pill to revive the libido that has been
chemically dulled as a side effect of the pill they take to buoy their
mood.
But for many women, the cause of their sexual malaise appears to be
monogamy itself. It is women much more than men who have H.S.D.D., who
don’t feel heat for their steady partners. Evolutionary psychologists
argue that this comes down to innate biology, that men are just made
with stronger sex drives — so men will settle for the woman who’s always
near. But the evidence for an inborn disparity in sexual motivation is
debatable. A meta-analysis done by the psychologists Janet Hyde and
Jennifer L. Petersen at the University of Wisconsin, Madison,
incorporates more than 800 studies conducted between 1993 and 2007. It
suggests that the very statistics evolutionary psychologists use to
prove innate difference — like number of sexual partners or rates of
masturbation — are heavily influenced by culture. All scientists really
know is that the disparity in desire exists, at least after a
relationship has lasted a while.
Dietrich Klusmann, a psychologist at the University of Hamburg-Eppendorf
in Germany, has provided a glimpse into the bedrooms of longtime
couples. His surveys, involving a total of almost 2,500 subjects,
comprise one of the few systematic comparisons of female and male desire
at progressive stages of committed relationships. He shows women and
men in new relationships reporting, on average, more or less equal lust
for each other. But for women who’ve been with their partners between
one and four years, a dive begins — and continues, leaving male desire
far higher. (Within this plunge, there is a notable pattern: over time,
women who don’t live with their partners retain their desire much more
than women who do.)
Lesbian couples seem to fare no better, and maybe worse, in keeping
their sexual ardor for each other. The term “lesbian bed death,” coined
by the University of Washington sociologist Pepper Schwartz in the ‘80s,
has been critiqued as overstatement but not quite as fiction. “In the
lesbian community, the monogamy problem is being aired more and more,”
Lisa Diamond, a professor of psychology and gender studies at the
University of Utah, told me. “For years, gay men have been making open
arrangements for sex outside the couple. Now, increasingly, gay women
are doing it.”
Klusmann’s results are echoed by Lori Brotto, a psychologist at the
University of British Columbia who has worked clinically with scores of
H.S.D.D. patients and who recently led the American Psychiatric
Association’s attempt to better delineate the condition in The
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. (H.S.D.D. is
being reconceived as sexual interest/arousal disorder, S.I.A.D.) “The
impact of relationship duration is something that comes up constantly,”
she told me about her therapy sessions. “Sometimes I wonder whether it” —
H.S.D.D. — “isn’t so much about libido as it is about boredom.”
But desire resists comprehension. Whether it is mainly a raw drive or a
complex emotion is a question that has bedeviled psychiatry for decades.
And the fading of desire can seem impossibly intricate. Is it a result
of a lack of intimacy or its cause? One theory holds that it’s a
challenge for both sexes to maintain passion over the long-term because
it’s threatening to desire the same person from whom we seek security
and true understanding. It leaves us feeling too vulnerable. As Stephen
A. Mitchell, one of the leaders of relational psychoanalysis, described
it: “Sustaining desire for something important from someone important is
the central danger of emotional life. What is so dangerous about
desiring someone you have is that you can lose him or her.” Mitchell
argued that ultimately the emotional meshing and vulnerability of
committed relationships can become the most rewarding source of eros.
Esther Perel, a couples therapist and author of “Mating in Captivity,”
emphasizes a separateness at the heart of longstanding passion. “Many
couples confuse love with merging,” she writes. “This mix-up is a bad
omen for sex. To sustain élan toward the other, there must be a synapse
to cross. Eroticism requires distance.”
“What protects desire in monogamous partnerships is a great empirical
question,” Brotto said. “I don’t think there have been any good
studies.”
Brotto, who is married and has three children, went on: “I’m a woman in a
long-term monogamous relationship. I myself have felt firsthand very
high passionate desire, which then wanes. I can relate to my patients
completely.” Sometimes she discusses the option of open relationships.
But even to contemplate this alternative is to ignite fears in both
women and men, and those override the pining for lust.
How much easier it would be if we could solve the insoluble by getting a
prescription, stopping off at the drugstore and swallowing a pill.
Jake Chessum for The New York Times
I watched the initial stage of the Lybrido and Lybridos
trials at the offices of Dr. Andrew Goldstein, a gynecologist in
Washington. Like the rest of the practitioners at the 16 research sites
across the country that Adriaan Tuiten contracted to conduct the
studies, Goldstein had to make sure that every applicant was in a stable
relationship. Tuiten didn’t openly acknowledge monogamy as the core of
the desire problem, but he knew he couldn’t use single subjects who
might well find new lovers during the course of the trials. Their
results might have to be tossed out because, with or without chemical
aids, new lovers bring surges of lust.
Goldstein was involved in other desire drug trials, then stopped taking
part in them for a while, out of disappointment and frustration. He was
optimistic, though, that Tuiten’s company, Emotional Brain, would
succeed with the F.D.A.; Tuiten’s approach, he said, was far more
scientifically “fine-tuned.” (He doesn’t stand to profit from Lybrido or
Lybridos, he says; he is paid his usual fee for each subject’s office
visit and also receives around $2,500 a year from Emotional Brain for
occasional work on an advisory board.) He recounted for me the way his
patients lament the disappearance of lust. “They use terms with real
emphasis, words that are violent,” he said. " ‘This is like someone cut
off my arm.’ ‘This is not how I see myself.’ ‘This is like something’s
been ripped away from me. Stripped away. Stolen.’ ”
Among the applicants for the trials whom Goldstein interviewed was a law
student. After five years with her boyfriend, she couldn’t trick
herself into the desire for him she once felt; she could only trick him
into believing she still felt it. “I don’t like to hurt his feelings,”
she said. “I’m a team player.” There was a divorced mother of three who
sensed herself slipping into the same sexual disinterest with her
current partner that she recognized from the slow death of her marriage.
“When we split up,” she said about her ex-husband, “it was like going
through a second puberty. So I attributed what had gone missing to who
he was.” She talked about the way her kids had always drained her
energy, about getting her disabled son to his therapy appointments. But
now that she was starting to feel sexually deadened with her boyfriend,
she had doubts about those explanations.
Every woman raised a mix of possible reasons. There were the demands of
graduate school, the demands of children, the demands of work, medical
issues, men who weren’t always as kind or nearly as engaged as they
could be. But at bottom there seemed to be one common cause: they had
all grown tired of sex with their long-term partners.
“I just want to know,” a woman asked Goldstein at the end of her
interview, after talking about the man she’d spent the last several
loving years with, “is this medicine going to work? Am I going to get my
freak back?”
One subject in the study was Zita, a 31-year-old who favors frilly
blouses and wears a heart-shaped pendant, a gift from her husband.
They’ve been married for 6 years, together for 11. “It was great,” she
told me about their beginning. “We were like jackrabbits.” Then
eagerness became avoidance: there was nighttime cleaning that had to be
done, or homework for a physician’s-assistant course that couldn’t wait.
She hoped her husband would be asleep by the time she slid into bed.
She still found him attractive, “but I don’t know, I don’t know how to
explain it. Over time, his sex drive decreased a little, and mine
decreased kind of drastically.” The couple had tried some role playing,
without much effect for her. One day she was on Craigslist and stumbled
on the ad for the trials. She quickly signed up. When she told friends
about it, they wanted in, too; they were distressed over the same
decline. But there were no spots left.
Jake Chessum for The New York Times
Consider the lengths to which scientists go to try to
understand the workings of female desire: Using a laboratory gadget that
measures vaginal blood flow while women watch varieties of pornography.
Having women wear headgear that tracks the precise movement of their
pupils, hundreds of times per second, as they gaze at X-rated images.
Studying female hamsters and even arachnids mating as a way to glean
insight into women’s sexual psyches. Wiring women’s necks and forearms
to what they are told is a polygraph machine while they fill out surveys
about their sex lives, their answers then compared with those of women
who aren’t wired up — and compared in turn with the responses of men.
These are all attempts to see around or beneath the societal messages
and cultural influences that may distort women’s sexuality and constrain
its expression, even in our seemingly unconstrained times. (Yes, the
lie detector had a much bigger effect on the women than the men, greatly
increasing the number of partners women said they’d had sex with.)
The equipment can seem bizarre and the laboratory situations comical —
picture a woman in a lounge chair with her pants around her knees, a
tampon-shaped tube in her vagina and a cord running from this device to a
console while she stares at a video of gay men partaking in foreplay —
but then, sex research has always had an absurd if valiant quality. In
the ‘50s and ‘60s, William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson filmed and
observed hundreds of subjects having intercourse in their lab, in an
effort to determine whether all female climaxes are clitoral in origin.
That debate goes on even today. Barry Komisaruk, a neuroscientist at
Rutgers University, buys plastic rods, heats them in his oven at home,
bends them into dildos shaped to isolate different genital sensations
and aims to settle the orgasm question once and for all.
One general principle about women’s desire has been widely embraced
since at least as far back as Victorian times and prevails still: that
female eros is, innately, much less promiscuous — much more dependent on
commitment and trust, much more sparked by closeness, much better
suited to constancy — than male sexuality. It has surely been comforting
to anyone concerned with the preservation of social order to think
that, a few exceptions aside, half the population has a natural
predisposition toward sexual stability. In recent decades, this idea has
been bolstered by evolutionary psychologists, whose “parental
investment theory” goes like this: because men have limitless sperm
while women have limited eggs, because men don’t have to invest much in
reproduction while women invest not just their ova but also their bodies
as they take on the tolls and risks of pregnancy and childbirth, males
have been hard-wired, since eons ago, to expand their genetic legacy by
spreading their cheap seed, while females are inherently made to
maximize their investment by being choosy, by securing a male likely to
be a good long-term provider.
The logic turns our assumptions about male and female sexuality into
inborn inevitabilities. But to read the journal articles that promote
this line of reasoning is to see the flimsiness of its foundation. In a
seminal 1993 paper, whose conclusions have made their way from academia
into popular consciousness, David M. Buss and David P. Schmitt,
psychology professors now at the University of Texas at Austin and at
Bradley University in Peoria, Ill., highlighted research showing that,
in comparison to college-age men, college-age women say they want far
fewer sexual partners over the course of their lifetimes. Similar
evidence runs throughout the article. But what exactly does this type of
data demonstrate: that women are innately less promiscuous in their
longings than men, or that women are taught to feel that they should be?
Studies conducted recently are beginning to hint that female eros isn’t
in the least programmed for fidelity. These range from close focus on
the sexual habits of our primate ancestors to research exploring women’s
wish for casual sex. An experiment led by Samantha Dawson, a Ph.D.
student in clinical psychology at Queen’s University, in Kingston,
Ontario, and another by Stephanie Both, a psychologist and assistant
professor at Leiden University Medical Center in the Netherlands, looked
at the issue in another way. Heterosexual women and men watched
pornographic film clips while their vaginas and penises were monitored.
The subjects watched a one-minute sex scene repeatedly, with breaks in
between to let genital blood flow return to a baseline state. Dawson’s
and Both’s results show women’s responses leaping at first, then, in
Dawson’s study, tracking the rapid downturn of the men, and in Both’s,
plummeting while the men’s reactions stayed surprisingly constant. When
the researchers introduced what are called “novel stimuli,” in this case
new clips of pornography, “vaginal pulse amplitude,” like penile
engorgement, spiked immediately.
In research published last year, Meredith Chivers, a psychologist at
Queen’s University, played pornographic audiotapes for heterosexual
women and compared, among other things, genital reactions to scenarios
involving a handsome male stranger or a hunky male friend. The friends
made the machine flatline. The strangers made it jump.
How much can we extrapolate from studies like these? Maybe conclusions
aren’t in order, but certainly we should doubt what evolutionary
psychology has taught us.
Jake Chessum for The New York Times
The search for a female-desire drug has been an
obsession of the pharmaceutical industry for more than a decade, largely
because the release of Viagra, in 1998, showed that gigantic sums of
money can be made with a quick chemical solution to sexual dysfunction.
But while Viagra and its competitors deal with the simple hydraulics of
impotence, the most troubling difficulty for men, the psychological
complexity of depleted lust has so far defeated industry giants. Yet
it’s important to note that Viagra isn’t entirely without influence on
the mental state of desire. The mechanics of the body and the mysteries
of the mind are intertwined. Give a man an erection, and his sensitized
nerves and enhanced feelings of power are going to feed his drive.
Women, research has shown, are less cognizant of genital arousal, and
probably for this reason, Viagra-like substances haven’t done enough to
raise women’s ratings of desire in past experiments, even while the
chemicals have added to blood flow. Tuiten’s Lybrido employs a
Viagra-like chemical as one-half of its arsenal, in the hope that it
will be effective in combination with a substance that more directly
targets the brain.
When Tuiten, a disheveled, youthful 58-year-old, told me the story of
how he conceived of Lybrido and Lybridos, there was something sad and
funny and metaphorically perfect about it — it was a tale of scientific
ingenuity stemming from a young man’s broken heart. Tuiten was in his
mid-20s when his girlfriend, a woman he’d been in love with since he was
13, abruptly decided to leave him. “I was — flabbergasted. You can say
that?” he asked me, making sure, in his choppy English, that he was
using the right word. “I was shocked. I was suffering.” He was an older
university student at the time; before that, he’d been a furniture
maker. The breakup inspired a lifelong quest to comprehend female
emotion through biochemistry and led to his career as a
psychopharmacologist. “I’m a little bit — not insane,” Tuiten said.
“But. There became a need for me to understand my personal life in this
way.”
The neural networks of eros, though, are only vaguely known. Tiny
subregions and crucial pathways in the brain have been identified —
blurrily, speculatively. Some progress has been made by looking at what
sites in the brain light up when people watch slide shows of pornography
while lying in magnetic-resonance-imaging cylinders. But the images
just aren’t exact enough. The brain’s interwoven networks are too
intricate for the technology to properly view them.
So we rely on rats. And one of the world’s masters of rat lust is Jim
Pfaus, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Concordia
University in Montreal, who wears hoop earrings and used to sing in a
punk band called Mold. The various drug companies, including Tuiten’s,
regularly consult with him. A few floors below his office, hundreds of
rats court and mate in stacks of Plexiglas cages. Pfaus and his grad
students inject the rodents with this or that compound to block one
aspect of desire’s biochemistry and isolate another. Or they kill the
rats right after a moment of craving or copulation. The brain is then
extracted, frozen and shaved into wafers, microns thin, by a device
resembling a mini cold-cut slicer. Pfaus peers at these specimens under a
microscope to figure out which clusters of neural cells went into
metabolic overdrive while the rodent was in a sexual frenzy.
As Pfaus explains it, sexual desire for both women and men seems to
begin in two low-lying brain zones: the medial preoptic area, which
looks like a pair of minuscule oblong balls, and the ventral tegmental
area, which is shaped something like a canoe. From this primitive
center, the neurotransmitter dopamine, the molecular essence of desire,
radiates outward through the brain. “A dopamine rush is a lust-pleasure,
it’s a heightening of everything,” Pfaus says. “It’s smelling a lover
up close — a woman inhaling that T-shirt. . . . It’s wanting to have;
it’s wanting more.”
A number of other biochemical ingredients are critical to the most basic
understanding of sexuality. But two of them — the hormone testosterone
and the neurotransmitter serotonin — are especially important. Rising
from the ovaries and from the adrenal glands that sit atop the kidneys,
testosterone rides the bloodstream to the brain and, by means not fully
known, stokes the production and release of dopamine. (Blood-borne
estrogen, which derives from testosterone, may also be involved in this
process.) And then there’s serotonin, dopamine’s foil. It allows the
advanced regions of the brain, the domains that lie high and forward, to
exert what is termed executive function. Serotonin is a molecule of
self-control. It instills calm, stability, coherence (and, too, a sense
of well-being, which is why S.S.R.I.'s, by bathing the brain in
serotonin, can counter depression). Roughly speaking, dopamine is
impulse; serotonin is inhibition and organization. And in sexuality, as
in other emotional realms, the two have to work in balance. If dopamine
is far too dominant, craving can splinter into attentional chaos. If
serotonin overwhelms, the rational can displace the randy.
Yet knowing the biochemical components of a woman’s desire is one thing;
manipulating them quite another. LibiGel, a testosterone gel made by
BioSante, which reached women’s bloodstreams through the skin, was one
of the medicines that preceded Lybrido and Lybridos. When F.D.A. trials
ended in 2011, the results showed that the product didn’t do any more
for sexual interest than a placebo.
Three years ago, Linneah took part in a trial of another drug,
Boehringer Ingelheim’s Flibanserin, a nonhormonal pill that tinkered
directly with neurotransmitter systems. Linneah swallowed a dose every
day — and waited. So did her neighbor and another friend, wives who
didn’t much desire their husbands anymore, either. They’d all taken
reassurance in one another’s indifference and shared their amazement
about another neighbor: “She was married as long as I was,” Linneah
remembered, “and she had four kids and she was P.T.A. president, and she
was ready to go with her husband 24/7, and we were all like, Wha?” That
spring of the Flibanserin trial, Linneah and her friends agreed that
they weren’t sensing any shift. Then, as now, Linneah thought maybe
she’d landed in a placebo group. When Boehringer Ingelheim presented its
data, an F.D.A. advisory board was not impressed with the results.
Bremelanotide, another nonhormonal medication (this one taken by nasal
inhaler), was tested in 2006 and 2007. It generated, in a fair
percentage of subjects, great waves of lust. Unfortunately, there were
side effects like sudden jumps in blood pressure and bouts of vomiting.
(LibiGel, Flibanserin and Bremelanotide are again being tested; this
time, Bremelanotide is being delivered via injection.)
Tuiten’s pills work somewhat differently than the drugs that came before
them. For one thing, both Lybrido and Lybridos contain two active
chemicals, timed so that their effects converge. Each drug tampers with
the interplay between serotonin and dopamine, giving dopamine, carrier
of lust, a temporary edge.
Both drugs have a peppermint-flavored testosterone coating that melts in
the mouth. When the exterior is gone, the woman swallows a
delayed-release inner tablet. In Lybrido, this inner pill is a close
cousin of Viagra. The idea is that the Viagra-like molecule, by making
extra blood flow to the genitals and adding to swelling and sensation,
will work in conjunction with the testosterone. Together they will stir
the mind to be more aware of erotic impulses; together they will help
spark dopamine networks. Lybridos uses a compound called buspirone
instead of the Viagra-like substance. Buspirone was originally used as
an anti-anxiety medication, and if taken every day it can elevate
serotonin in the brain. But as long as it’s taken no more than every
other day, it has a unique short-term effect: for a few hours, serotonin
is suppressed.
To help predict which women will most benefit from which drug, Tuiten
has blood drawn from each subject and examines genetic markers related
to brain chemistry. Tuiten also asks subjects questions about their
comfort with sexual feelings and fantasies. Since our dopamine and
serotonin networks are reinforced or attenuated by all we learn, all we
think and do, he believes that the answers may provide clues about a
given woman’s neurotransmitter systems, which he uses as part of his
diagnostic method.
This interplay of experience and neural pathways is widely known as
neuroplasticity. The brain is ever altering. And it is neuroplasticity
that may help explain why hypoactive sexual desire disorder is a mostly
female condition, why it seems that women, more than men, lose interest
in having sex with their long-term partners. If boys and men tend to
take in messages that manhood is defined by sex and power, and those
messages encourage them to think about sex often, then those neural
networks associated with desire will be regularly activated and will
become stronger over time. If women, generally speaking, learn other
lessons, that sexual desire and expression are not necessarily positive,
and if therefore they don’t think as much about sex, then those same
neural networks will be less stimulated and comparatively weak. The more
robust the neural pathways of eros, the more prone you are to feel lust
at home, even as stimuli dissipate with familiarity and habit.
“We had sex five times a week when before it was once a
week,” Zita told me shortly after she’d finished her supply of Lybrido.
And she wasn’t enthusiastic about that weekly intimacy. With the drug,
she said, “I wanted to have sex even after we had sex. I would feel
horny, and I got like a throbbing sensation, like I had to do something
or it was going to bother me all night. I would just want more.” When I
asked how her husband felt about her taking the medication, she
laughed."Happy,” she said.
Tuiten published some results from small, preliminary trials in the
March issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine. His full data, which he
has just finished tabulating and will soon be taking to the F.D.A., show
Lybrido bestowing unmistakable benefits in desire — and in rates of
orgasm. (The outcomes for Lybridos aren’t thoroughly compiled, but he
says that early results look about as positive.) Tuiten is confident
that the F.D.A. will send him to do another larger set of trials, which
will involve about 1,200 subjects. Plenty of drugs fail at that stage of
replication. But if all goes well, by 2016, Lybrido and Lybridos might
be on the market.
Is it possible, after all, that through the pharmaceutical industry a
fairy-tale ending could come to pass? Perhaps the fantasy that so many
of us harbor, consciously or not, in the early days of our
relationships, that we have found a soul mate who will offer us both
security and passion, till death do us part, will soon be available with
the aid of a pill.
But of course swallowing a tablet can take us only so far. Chemically
enhancing a woman’s desire might play out in all kinds of ways within a
relationship. Some couples might feel closer, others might feel desolate
because, despite more sex, their bond isn’t stronger. Wives might yearn
for the old seductive efforts of their husbands, even if those gestures
stopped working long ago. Women might feel yet more pressure to
perform: Why not get that prescription? their partners might ask; why
not take that pill? And men, if they are willing to confront the truth,
might not be so happy about the reminder, as their partners reach for
the pill bottle, that their women need chemical assistance to want them.
All the agonies that have existed since the dawn of monogamy will still
pertain, many of them coming down to the craving to feel special.
Beyond what might happen in millions of bedrooms, it’s even more
difficult to foresee what societal transformations might be stirred.
Just as with the birth-control pill, a foreboding not only about sex
itself but also about female empowerment may be expressed in a dread of
women’s sexual anarchy. Over the last decade, as companies chased after
an effective chemical, there was fretting within the drug industry: what
if, in trials, a medicine proved too effective? More than one
adviser to the industry told me that companies worried about the
prospect that their study results would be too strong, that the F.D.A.
would reject an application out of concern that a chemical would lead to
female excesses, crazed binges of infidelity, societal splintering.
“You want your effects to be good but not too good,” Andrew Goldstein,
who is conducting the study in Washington, told me. “There was a lot of
discussion about it by the experts in the room,” he said, recalling his
involvement with the development of Flibanserin, “the need to show that
you’re not turning women into nymphomaniacs.” He was still a bit stunned
by the entrenched mores that lay within what he’d heard. “There’s a
bias against — a fear of creating the sexually aggressive woman.”
Gaining control of their reproduction in the ‘60s affected not just
women’s sex lives but also everything from their social standing to
economic empowerment. What might it mean for conventional structures if
women could control, with a prescription, the most primal urge? So many
things, personal and cultural, might need to be recalibrated and
renegotiated, explicitly or without acknowledgment. The cumulative
effect of all those negotiations could be hugely transformative, in ways
either thrilling or threatening, depending on your point of view.
Maybe.
For her part, Linneah didn’t see herself as doing anything
revolutionary. This was about her marriage. She said that if this drug
didn’t work, she would sign up for the next experimental medication that
came along. She seemed untroubled by the fact that we live in an age
when it’s possible to take a pill for nearly everything, or by the
paradox that one of the problems this medication might be addressing is
the desire-killing side effect of yet another type of psychotropic
chemical, the S.S.R.I.'s. For her, the existence of the antidepressants
that so many others take was proof that her problem would be solved.
“They’ve got all these meds for all these other psychiatric issues,” she
said, before driving away with her new batch of pills. “Something’s got
to pop up that can help with this. Right? Right?”
Daniel Bergner is a contributing writer for the magazine. This article is adapted from his book, “What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire,” to be published by Ecco next month.
source: NY Times
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