09 December 2013

Opium Cultivation in Northeast Rings Alarm Bells

Guwahati, Dec 9 : The illicit cultivation of opium in the northeast is on the rise and experts at a seminar here called for drawing up of strategies by the enforcement agencies to arrest the menace.

"The prevalence of opium production and abuse is rising alarmingly in states such as Manipur and Nagaland as more and more people in remote areas are taking up the cultivation as a means of livelihood and also for their own consumption," said Devendra Dutt, secretary of the Institute of Narcotics Studies and Analysis (INSA) while attending a seminar in Guwahati on Saturday. A survey on narcotics by the INSA at two border districts of Arunachal Pradesh -Anjaw and Lohit -has revealed that cultivation of opium is widespread as is addiction to the drug among people there.

An overwhelming 90 per cent of the villages in Anjaw had all families cultivating opium, while in Lohit, the corresponding figure was 63 per cent.

INSA, in collaboration with Don Bosco Institute, Guwahati, organized a three-day seminar on 'Drugs in the North East: Searching for Truth and Solutions'. The seminar was attended by delegates from various states and international participants who discussed the extent and prevalence of all kinds of drug abuse in the region, illicit cultivation of opium, production and trafficking in the region.

The discussion also took into account the developments taking place elsewhere in the world. Delegates from abroad shared their experiences in European and Latin American countries, which have endorsed a 'four pillars' policy - prevention, therapy, harm reduction and policing.

Silence and serenity in India

By Michael Snyder



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New Delhi - When the music ended, the valley fell silent. In the last weeks of September, the monsoon rains had largely receded, but elephantine clouds continued to pour over the hillsides, drifting close overhead and dropping dramatic shadows across the golden paddies carpeting the valley floor. Cupped like so much still water in the upraised hands of the Himalayas, the Ziro Valley had returned, once again, to its customary quiet.
Over the previous three days, the second Ziro Festival of Music – one of the newest additions to India’s rapidly expanding festival circuit – had brought some 1 200 people to the valley. They’d travelled from across the neighbouring Seven Sister states of the remote north-east, and from India’s big cities, to Arunachal Pradesh, the sparsely populated hill state that bursts from the plains and tea plantations of Assam and rises toward the Tibetan plateau.
Like all the artists and journalists who attended the festival, I arrived by road from Guwahati, the nearest major city with an airport. The drive – I would describe it as harrowing, but that seems like an exaggeration, albeit a mild one – took 18 hours, beginning along the flat banks of the Brahmaputra River and continuing, in its final 100km, along pockmarked switchbacks that hugged the contours of the hillsides as they rose through subtropical jungle toward the gentle alpine hills that enclose Ziro.
The lack of infrastructure, and the travel permits required to enter the state because of its disputed northern border with China, make getting to Arunachal complex, which has kept the state well off the grid. In its small way, the festival has begun to put Ziro on the map, but like most of Arunachal and the north-east, this remains tribal territory: amazingly diverse, virtually unexplored and beautiful beyond all reason.
Ziro, for instance, is home to the Apatani tribe, one of 26 major tribes (there are more than 100 sub-tribes) that make up Arunachal’s minuscule population. With just 1.4 million people spread over 82 880 square kilometres of jungle-covered hills, alpine valleys and snow-capped mountains, Arunachal has the lowest population density of any state in India. Yet follow the single road that heads north out of Ziro, first climbing through pine forest before dropping suddenly into a deeper valley lush with bananas and primeval fern trees, and you enter an entirely different tribal zone, with different styles of housing, different festivals, a different language.
After the Ziro festival, Lee Ranaldo and Steve Shelley – two former members of Sonic Youth who played the last show – held a news conference. “This is beyond what we thought we’d come to India for,” Ranaldo said of Ziro. And it’s true: most travellers associate India with drama – with chaos, riotous colours and the constant possibility of transcendence and disaster. Ziro bestows a calm that feels like absolution.
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Women from throughout the state's central districts travel to Ziro on government stipends to refine their skills before going home to teach classes in their villages.
THE WASHINGTON POST
The scriptures of the earliest Tibetan Buddhist sect describe seven sacred beyul, or hidden valleys, a concept that led James Hilton, in his 1933 novel, Lost Horizon, to create the mythical Himalayan utopia of Shangri-La. That’s a name that gets bandied around a lot by tourism ministries and enthusiastic tourists alike. Kashmir, Swat and Hunza have been described as tragic Shangri-Las lost to the ravages of war. Bhutan, with its famous Gross National Happiness index, long history of isolation and highly restrictive travel policies, is sometimes described as the last Shangri-La.
Before leaving for Arunachal, I heard several people describe it as yet another one: the seventh beyul, exquisitely preserved, sublime in its isolation.
I was, of course, sceptical. But then, I hadn’t yet seen Ziro.
Shri Buga Bullo and his wife, Yagyang, live in a village called Hong. Inside their home, the tightly woven bamboo walls blocked out the brilliant sun that had warmed the Ziro Valley to an unusually hot 32°C. Like all traditional houses here, the Bullos’ home centres on a communal fireplace and a hanging three-tiered rack that held skewers of drying meat, firewood and, on top, a massive sheet of fat and skin from a pig, petrified and preserved over decades by the constant smoke from the fire below.
Like the dozens of horned mithun skulls stacked in the corner (mithun is an indigenous, semi-domesticated bull), collected from ceremonial sacrifices performed over many years, the slab of fat is a sign of prosperity.
Buga crouched on one side of the fire with a century-old silver pipe clamped between his withered lips and chatted in the local Apatani dialect with Tajo Michi, who has led tours around the north-east for the past nine years. (He goes by Christopher for the convenience of foreign tourists, and for the past two years has run his own agency, Northeast Holiday Tour & Travels.
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Women weave traditional textiles of the Adi tribe from a neighboring region of Arunachal Pradesh at the Handicrafts Emporium just outside the center of Hapoli town in the Ziro Valley.
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On the far side of the fire, Yagyang prepared a metal pitcher of rice beer, a milky, sweet-sour drink brewed in nearly every house in the valley. Like many women of her age (which is indeterminate; birthdays are neither marked nor celebrated among the Apatani), Yagyang wears the nose plugs and facial tattoos that distinguish the local women from those of neighbouring tribes: a single blue line from the forehead to the tip of the nose and five separate lines running from the lower lip to the chin.
The origin of these tattoos is obscure. The common story goes that they were designed to disfigure the Apatani women, who were otherwise so beautiful that men from the surrounding tribes would raid the valley to kidnap them. Koj Mama, the president of the Arunachal Pradesh Birding Club and director of Brahmaputra Tours, said this was almost certainly an invention.
As Tajo, Koj and I drank our rice beer, Buga stood – bent forward nearly 90º, his topknot held at his forehead by a long reed – to retrieve a jar of Apatani salt for us to eat with the drink. The fine black powder is made from the evaporated liquids pressed out of a locally grown grass. It’s vegetal, briny flavour, infused with the metallic tang of iodine, gives the final kick to a local delicacy known as pike pilla, a simple stew made from smoked pork or mithun skin.
Unlike neighbouring tribes that have long practised a nomadic style of shifting cultivation (called jhum), the Apatani have been settled in the valley since their prehistoric migration from the north, giving them the opportunity to develop uniquely sophisticated agricultural and craft techniques.
The wet paddies that line the valley floor, for instance, double as fisheries for small freshwater fish, which are either dried and fermented for chutneys or steamed in a hollow stalk of bamboo sealed with leaves and placed in the hot coals of an open fire. This preparation, called sudu, is also commonly used for chicken, liver, eggs and rice. Canny guides like Tajo and Koj – all highly attuned to global trends – will make a point of telling you that the food here is entirely local and organic, an understatement if ever I’ve heard one.
At the Government Craft Emporium, housed in a creaky colonial bungalow in the village of Salang, craftspeople from the surrounding region receive stipends to come and improve their skills, weaving the traditional geometric shawls and gales (a type of sarong) of the Apatani, Nyishi and Adi tribes. Wander through the compound, and you’ll see a woman from the Buddhist Monpa tribe in the state’s north-west tying small woollen carpets, a blacksmith crafting tribal machetes and a carpenter fashioning all manner of objects out of bamboo. Some of these craftsmen stay permanently at the centre, while others return to their home villages to pass the skill along. At the mporium store, the final products are sold at shockingly low prices, as little as 450 rupees (about R70) for a handwoven gale.
In about four hours, you can walk the road that loops between the villages skirting the edge of the valley floor, and in a day or so you can complete the trail through the dense forest just above. You can linger in the villages themselves, walking beneath the tall ceremonial wooden masts known as babos left from the myoko festival held every March – part of the prevailing sun-and-moon worship tradition – and past old women sifting millet and rice on their front porches.
On my last evening, after a brief sunset hike into the forest between Hong and Hari villages, Tajo and I stopped at a house to sample another brew of rice beer and a potent (though barely potable) distilled rice liquor. We ate skewers of beef taken straight from the smoking rack and thrown into the coals.
At another house, we ate fish sudu and hot chutneys, and at the end of the night we returned to my own home-stay in a traditional bamboo house back in Hong, where the owner, Tom, made arrangements for my onward journey the next day.
After a long day, I fell fast asleep on a bamboo pallet to the conspicuous sound of absolutely nothing.
“There’s nothing to see here,” Tajo Nido (another Tajo) told me a day later. We sat on the porch of his aunt’s bamboo hut, built on stilts on a forested hillside looking out over the crests of the surrounding mountains and the sparse wooden and bamboo houses that make up the village of Raga. Home makes us blind.
But then, of course, Tajo is right to some extent: there really isn’t anything to see in Raga, if we’re using “see” to mean “do”. Two hours north of Ziro, Raga sits at a lower elevation, but from its hilltop perch it overlooks the surrounding range of mountains, the kind that hint at higher ones just over the next ragged line embossed upon the sky.
The few visitors who pass through here usually do so en route to the town of Daporijo, in the neighbouring district of Upper Subansiri.
I myself came here for no particular reason, save for the fact I didn’t have quite enough time to go anywhere else and wanted, after five days in Ziro, to see something of Arunachal’s diversity.
The Nyishi tribe living just outside Ziro bears certain similarities to the Apatani: both tribes, like many in Arunachal’s central swathe, are still primarily animist (although the recent arrival ofmissionaries from the evangelical state of Mizoram to the south has begun to change that); both tribes subsist almost entirely on agriculture; both tribes prepare food using similar ingredients, though the Nyishi make greater use of tropical plants such as banana flower and lack ingredients such as Apatani salt.
Yet the structure of the place, the style of the houses, the character of the people and the landscape, lends Raga a different personality.
If Ziro has minimal infrastructure for visitors, then Raga has none. The people who took me around did so out of generosity, a special trait that, throughout the largely unvisited north-east, remains remarkably untainted by the cynicism that can at times make travelling in other parts of India so frustrating.
I spent my first evening in Raga at Tajo’s home near the market in the town centre, where the next day I sampled another homemade rice brew in a ramshackle house near a mechanic’s garage. At the family home, Tajo’s stepmother poured us fresh millet wine, sweet and warm and only beginning its fermentation. I used a machete to help Tajo gut the small fish that had come in that day from Ziro, and narrowly avoided losing my left hand.
The next evening, Topu Banor, the 19-year-old son of a local folk musician, took me on a short walk from the Circuit House (a simple government accommodation opened only on days when visitors come through, and usually reserved for local dignitaries) to the top of the hill overlooking the town. We walked in the waning afternoon along a muddy road built a couple of years earlier with government funds, Topu told me, but neither completed nor put into use.
It’s a typical story of negligence that reflects Arunachal’s ongoing battle against its almost impossible topography and immense distance from India's centres of power. It also reflects the sense of alienation that remains, also kind of miraculously, tempered by the delirious optimism that has become India’s trademark in the 21st century. “In five years, Raga will be a developed town,” Topu boasted. Perhaps. Time, too, tends to be flexible out here.
As we neared the top of the hill, the clouds and mist so typical in the Land of Dawn-Lit Mountains (the almost too poetic translation of Arunachal Pradesh) had lowered over the faces of the hills, like the cataracts beginning to creep over Buga Bullo’s ageless eyes. Drops of water left the tall grasses along the roadside wet as Topu led me towards a small field on the final rise, stubbled with corn stalks.
“You haven’t been here, no?” he asked.
“No,” I said, as he pushed forward through the damp grass.
In the previous days, I had seen places and views that were more perfect, more calming in their pastoral beauty, yet looking out again over a hallucinogenic swirl of hills and clouds and forest, fading through grey towards purple-black night, I couldn’t dispute what he said next as he led the way forward with a small, bashful laugh: “Come. I will show you heaven.” – The Washington Post
l Snyder is a freelance writer based in Mumbai and a contributing editor to Architectural Digest India.
 
If You Go...
GETTING THERE
Jet Airways flies to Guwahati in Assam, the nearest major airport to Arunachal Pradesh, from Delhi, Mumbai and Kolkata. Buses run regularly from Guwahati to Itanagar (from about $9 (R91), nine to 11 hours), where Jeep connection is available to Ziro (about $8, five to seven hours). Private vehicles can also be arranged from Guwahati directly to Ziro, starting at around $40.
Protected Area Permits, required for all foreign visitors travelling to Arunachal Pradesh, can be arranged in person at the Arunachal tourism office in New Delhi or, more conveniently, through a guide or tour operator.
Permits for 30 days cost $50, plus an additional handling fee if booked through an agent or operator.
 
WHERE TO STAY AND EAT
Ziro Valley Resort
Biiri Village, Ziro
Comfortable and charming, if a bit creaky, and a 15-minute walk from Hong village. Restaurant offers decent renditions of North Indian and Indian Chinese dishes as well as alcoholic beverages. Double rooms from $25 a night.
 
Siiro Resort
Siiro Village, Ziro
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A bulky new building made of logs and rough stone, set at the southern edge of the valley. The restaurant here serves no alcohol. Double rooms from $25.
 
Home stays
There are eight home-stays spread across five villages in the valley, six in concrete houses with modern amenities, two in traditional bamboo houses.
They provide traditional breakfast, lunch and dinner and are best arranged through local guides (see below). Rooms from $11 a night, with food.
 
WHAT TO DO
Government Craft Emporium
Route 229, Hapoli
In a compound of colonial-style bungalows just outside central Hapoli on the main road leading to Old Ziro. Monday-Friday, 9.30am to 12.30pm and 2.30pm to 4pm.
 
Northeast Holiday Tour & Travels
Christopher (Tajo) Michi offers customised guided trips for foreign travellers throughout Arunachal and the north-east.
Tours including transport, hotel accommodation, food, guide and travel permits from $150 per night for two. E-mail: northeast-holiday@gmx.us.
 
Brahmaputra Tours
www.brahmaputra-tours.com
Guide Koj Mama offers itineraries covering various regions of Arunachal Pradesh and the surrounding north-eastern states. As president of the Arunachal Pradesh Birding Club, he is a particularly good choice if you’re interested in the region’s unique flora and fauna.
Tours including transport, hotel accommodation, food, guide and travel permits from $180 per night for two.
 
INFORMATION
www.arunachaltourism.com
06 December 2013

Nelson Mandela: Famous Quotes

RIP Madiba...

On his ideals (1964 trial)

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters) "During my lifetime I have dedicated myself to this struggle of the African people. I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons will live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for. But, my lord, if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die."

On becoming an anti-apartheid leader

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)
'I had no epiphany, no singular revelation, no moment of truth, but a steady accumulation of a thousand slights, a thousand indignities and a thousand unremembered moments produced in me an anger, a rebelliousness, a desire to fight the system that imprisoned my people. There was no particular day on which I said, Henceforth I will devote myself to the liberation of my people; instead, I simply found myself doing so, and could not do otherwise.'

On revenge

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)
 'You will achieve more in this world through acts of mercy than you will through acts of retribution.'

On leadership

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)

'The first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself... Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, but humility.'

On racism

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)

'No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.'

On hatred

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)
''As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.'

On life's challenges

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)
'After climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb.'

On courage

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)
''I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.'

On resentment


Nelson Mandela (© Reuters) 'Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.'

On doing the right thing

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)

'We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right.'

On communication

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)
'If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.'

On changing the world

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters) 'Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.'

On prison

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)

'It is said that no one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails. A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but its lowest ones.'

On freedom

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)

'To be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.'

On hope

Nelson Mandela (© Reuters)

'It always seems impossible until it's done.'

Why Almost All Channels Chose To Exit Mizoram This Polls

Mizoram pollsOn why no channel bothered to cover Mizoram, CVoter managing director Yashwant Deshmukh said: "No media channel commissions poll surveys for the north east. (PTI)

New Delhi, Dec 6 : If you saw television channels after the voting ended in Delhi on Wednesday, you would have thought just four states that went to the polls over the past month or so. Actually, there were five. The last one, forgotten in the focus on the larger, more newsy states, was Mizoram.

In fact, of the many exit polls conducted by research agencies for television channels, only one had figures for this north-eastern state. In a poll done for India TV, CVoter predicted a hung Assembly in the state with Congress being reduced to just 19 seats in the 40-member House. This is down 13 seats from its 2008 tally.

On why no channel bothered to cover Mizoram, CVoter managing director Yashwant Deshmukh said: "No media channel commissions poll surveys for the north east. We did the Mizoram poll with our own money as we feel it irresponsible to ignore one state. We have been conducting polls in the region for a couple of years now." Deshmukh said they had 80 researchers on the ground, covering 3311 respondents in all the 40 segments.

With just one Lok Sabha constituency in the state, it seems media houses as well as political pundits think the state is insignificant to be counted.

In their favour is the fact that most of them ignore the entire north east and not just a state in the region.

Sugar Scarcity Hits Mizoram

Aizawl, Dec 6 : Sugar scarcity has hit Mizoram hard and the crisis is bound to affect the Christmas parties in this Christian dominated hill state.

December is one month where jubillees and conferences of both social and Church organisations are held and the scarcity of sugar has already affected the Mizoram Synod Conference.

Meanwhile, in a scathing attack on the Congress Government's inability to bring sufficient supply of sugar in Mizoram during this Christmas season, Mizo National Front (MNF) strongly castigated the government for its laxity to undo the sugar crisis. The Congress government had reportedly claimed the reason for its shortage as insufficient fund.

MNF in its press statement today said that there is an acute shortage of sugar in the state after the Central Government imposed ban on the supply of sugar through PDS (ration).

Almost every household especially financially poor families and Churches and organizations have been facing shortage of sugar supply ever since the central banned its supply.

"The crisis has severely affected many big functions as it has been witnessed in the ongoing Mizoram Synod Conference, because sugar is one of the essential needs of public in a gathering. It is also likely to affect Christmas and New Year celebrations", the statement said.

The Central Government, according to the statement, after banning the supply of sugar through PDS, has served notice to all state authorities to purchase sugar from open market. Pursuing the central notice, Govt. of Mizoram subsequently issued a tender notice for the supply of sugar. The tender then was given to one private firm in Guwahati which was the lowest bidder of all.

"Inspite of all these initiatives, the government could not be bring adequate supply of sugar due to deficit fund", the MNF statement added.

"It is therefore, very disappointing that the government remained in such incompetent state of not capable to purchase the essential commodity and this inability has evidently indicates the unreliability of the Congress government", the MNF statement read.


Source: Newmai News Network

20 Ways to Overcome Shyness

Can you remember the last time you stepped into a room full of strangers and felt that self-conscious and awkward feeling rush over you? Or that heart thumping moment when you wanted to ask someone on a date, but were too shy to do so? Or wanting to approach someone for business, but was too hesitant to actually do it? That anxiety in the pit of your stomach in social situations? Does it always feel like something is holding you back?

Regardless of whether you are introverted or extraverted, we can all relate to that feeling of shyness at some point in our lives. Socially, we tend to have the misconception that only introverts experience shyness, but that is not true. Shyness has more to do with being uncomfortable with one’s self, especially around other people.

This article is the result of collaboration between Amanda Linehan, an introvert, and Tina Su, an extravert. Together, we wanted to shed some light on the topic of shyness in a collective perspective from both extremes. We will also share the ways that we used to turn shyness into personal empowerment.


The Three Components of Shyness

According to Dr. Bernardo J. Carducci of the Shyness Research Institute, shyness has three components:
  • Excessive Self-Consciousness – you are overly aware of yourself, particularly in social situations.
  • Excessive Negative Self-Evaluation – you tend to see yourself negatively.
  • Excessive Negative Self-Preoccupation – you tend to pay too much attention to all the things you are doing wrong when you are around other people.
Can you relate? When you are experiencing shyness, can you fit your state of mind into one or more of the above categories? We sure can.

Why Do We Experience Shyness?

We all experience shyness differently and on varying degrees. However, root cause can be boiled down to one of the following reasons:

1. Weak Self Image

This is especially true to our experiences in high school. We would believe in the fallacy that our unique qualities were not interesting, cool or worthy of anyone’s admiration.We would try to fit in with everyone else, resulting in us not feeling like ourselves.
  • Amanda: Looking back I’m not even sure I knew what my unique abilities were, I just knew that everybody else seemed to be a cooler, more interesting person than I was, so I tried to imitate them…poorly.:)
  • Tina: I thought of myself as cool, because I was loud, and worked very hard at keeping that image. It was of course, a false image that I worked hard to keep. It was exhausting and I was exceedingly self conscious. Even though people didn’t view me as shy, but I felt shy most of the time with a lot of built up anxiety. Turns out, the ‘cool’ kids themselves have weak self images and wanted to fit in with everyone else.

2. Pre-occupation with Self

When we’re around other people, we become extremely sensitive to what we’re doing, as if we’ve been put on center stage. This creates anxiety and makes us question our every move. Our focus centers around ourselves and particularly on “what I was doing wrong”. This can cause a downward spiral.
  • Amanda: Coupled with a weak self image,I didn’t thinkIwas doing anything right! And this would start a cycle that I couldn’t get out of. What I understand now is that is that most people are not looking at me with the detail thatI was looking at myself.
  • Tina: I too was very sensitive to my every move around other people. My senses were heightened to the way I talked, walked, laughed, etc. My focus was on how to not screw up in front of other people, and this made me very nervous. What I understand now is that everyone is so caught up with their own insecurities that they hardly notice yours.

3. Labeling

When we label ourselves as a shy person, we psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. We may say to ourselves, “I am a shy person, than it must be true that I am shy. This is how I am, and this is the way things are.” When we label something, that thing has the perception of being fixed and therefore we must live up to the expectations of the labeling.
  • Amanda: I was known by others as a shy person, or a quiet person, and this perception held me captive at times. People expected me to be a certain way and so I was. And knowing that other people regarded me as shy, in addition to my not wanting to be shy, resulted in great anxiety when I was with people. I really wanted to show myself to others when I was around them, but it was easy to simply go along with what others expected from me.
  • Tina: Deep down, I felt the anxieties from shyness often, yet, when I’m around people, I had to live up to the expectations that I wasn’t shy. My experiences with shyness would manifest in unusual ways, like when I’m ordering food, when I call someone on the phone, or speak to strangers. I would never let that side of myself show, but I do experience it. In those moments, I can hear myself say, ‘I am shy.’

How to Overcome Shyness

We’ve both experienced different variations of shyness, and through practice and increased awareness we have both overcome this. The following are tips that have helped us overcome this uncomfortable feeling.
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1. Understand Your Shyness

Seek to understand your unique brand of shyness and how that manifests in your life. Understand what situation triggers this feeling? And what are you concerned with at that point?

2. Turning Self Consciousness into Self Awareness

Recognize that the world is not looking at you. Besides, most people are too busy looking at themselves. Instead of watching yourself as if you are other people, bring your awareness inwards. Armed with your understanding of what makes you shy, seek within yourself and become the observing presence of your thoughts. Self awareness is the first step towards any change or life improvement.

3. Find Your Strengths

We all have unique qualities and different ways of expressing ourselves. It’s important to know and fully accept the things we do well, even if they differ from the norm. If everyone was the same, the world would be a pretty boring place.
  • Find something you are good at and focus on doing it. An identifiable strength will boost your natural self esteem and your ego, helping you better identify with yourself. It is a short term fix, but will give you the confidence you need to break your self-imposed barrier of fear.
  • See how your unique strength gives you an advantage. For example, Amanda is a naturally quiet person who prefers to spend time alone. She learned that she listens better than others and notices things that others miss in conversations. She also discovered that her alone time has given her a better understanding of herself.

4. Learn to Like Yourself

Practice appreciating yourself and liking the unique expression that is you. Write a love letter to yourself, do things you enjoy, give gratitude for your body and its effortless functions, spend quality time getting to know yourself, go on a self-date.

5. Not Conforming

Trying to fit in like everyone else is exhausting and not very much fun. Understand that it is okay to be different. In fact, underlying popular kid’s public displays of coolness, they too are experiencing insecurities, self-consciousness, and awkwardness. Accept that you may not be perceived as the most popular social butterfly, and you may not want to be either. At the end of the day, being popular will not make you happy. Accepting your unique qualities can set you free.

6. Focus on Other People

Rather than focusing on your awkwardness in social situations, focus on other people and what they have to say. Become interested in learning about others, and probe them to talk about themselves. You can try pondering the question while interacting: What is it about this person that I like?

7. Releasing Anxiety through Breath


Anxiety and fear can feel overwhelming if you are practicing to become more assertive in order to overcome this fear.
  • One simple technique to calm this anxiety into manageable bites is taking deep breaths with your eyes closed, while concentrating on just your breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly while clearing out all thoughts.
  • Another technique is from yoga: counting as you inhale and then as you exhale. Slowly leveling out your inhale and exhale duration. Example, 4 count for in and 4 for out. Once your breaths are leveled, add an extra count during your exhale. This means slowing down your exhale by just a tad as compared to your inhale. Continue for a few minutes until you are comfortable, than add another count to your exhale. You can easily do this in the bathroom, or in a spare room of when you need it.

8. Releasing Anxiety through Movement

One way of viewing anxiety is that it is blocked energy that needs to be released. We can release this energy through physical movement.
  • Exercises like jogging or walking will help to re-channel some of the blocked energies, but also helps by pulling you out of the situation and shifts your state of mind. This refreshed state of mind will help by adding perspectives to things.
  • Another effective technique is a simple muscle meditation/exercise. Sit down or lie down. Bring awareness to every part of your body, starting from your toes and moving up your body to the top of your head. At every part of your body, tighten the muscles at the center of awareness for 3-5 seconds, and then relax. Repeat this until you get to the top of your head. Remember to breathe.

9. Visualization

Visualizing yourself in the situation as a confident and happy person helps to shape your perception of yourself when you are actually in the situation. Close your eyes, sit back somewhere relaxing, listen to some relaxing music, imagine yourself in a scene or situation and see yourself the way you would like to be. In this scene, how do you feel? What do you hear? Do you smell anything? Are you moving? What do you see? Get all your senses involved to make it real.

10. Affirmation

Words can carry incredible energy. What we repeatedly tell ourselves, gets heard by our unconscious mind, and it acts accordingly. If we repeatedly tell ourselves that we are incapable, and too shy to do anything, we will become increasingly aware of evidence to back up this ‘fact’, and our actions will always match what we tell ourselves. Similarly, if we repeatedly tell ourselves that we are capable, confident, and wonderful human beings, our unconscious mind will likely surface the awareness that gives evidence to this new ‘fact’. While, we can’t lie to ourselves, positive visualization and affirmation are helpful in placing us along the road of positive thought patterns.

11. Do Not Leave an Uncomfortable Situation

When we leave shy situations, what we are really doing is reinforcing our shyness. Instead, face the situation square in the face. Turn the fearful situation into a place of introspection and personal growth. Become the observer and dig into yourself, answer the questions: why do I feel this way? What caused me to feel this way? Can there be an alternative explanation to what is happening?

12. Accept Rejection

Accept the possibility that we can be rejected and learning to not take it personally. Remember, you are not alone and we all experience rejections. It is part of life and part of the learning process. The key lies in how you handle rejections when they come. It helps to be mentally prepared before they happen:
  • Never take it personally. It was not your fault. It just wasn’t meant to be. The scenario was not the best fit for you.
  • Find the lesson – what did you learn? There is a lesson ingrained in every situation. And through these life lessons lies the potential for you to become a better person, a stronger person. Nothing is lost if you can find the lesson. See these as the blessings in disguise.
  • Move on. Recognize that when you fall into self-pity, you are not moving forward. Nothing will be changed from your self-pity. When you start to recognize this, it becomes clear that only energy is wasted while we feed to our problem-seeking ego. Pick yourself up, dust off the dirt and move on to the next thing. Try again, try again, try again. It will pay off!

13. Relinquish Perfectionism

When we compare ourselves, we tend to compare ourselves with the most popular person in the room or we compare ourselves with celebrities we see on TV. We set excessive expectations by comparing ourselves unreasonably to people unlike ourselves and wonder “why can’t I be that?” We carry with us a vision of another’s perfection and expect ourselves to fit that exact mold. And when we don’t fit, we beat ourselves up for it, wondering why we are such failures. You see, the problem lies in our emphasis on fitting into a vision we have created in our minds, which is not us. Let go of this perfect image, create visions of yourself out of the Being from who you are, naturally; and let that expression flow, naturally.
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14. Stop Labeling Yourself

Stop labeling yourself as a shy person. You are you, you are unique, and you are beautiful. Can’t we just leave it at that?

15. Practice Social Skills

Like any other skill, social skills can be cultivated through practice and experience. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it becomes next time. If you have a hard time knowing what to say, you can practice what to say ahead of time.

16. Practice Being in Uncomfortable Situations

Sometimes, it is not the social skills we lack, but rather the lack of self confidence that we may succeed, and a heightened fear that we will fail. Placing yourself in these uncomfortable situations will help to desensitize your fear towards the situation. The more you force yourself to face it, and to experience it completely, you will realize that it is not that bad after all. It may be hard for your ego to accept at first, but quickly you will find that you can just laugh and enjoy it.

17. The Three Questions

During social settings where you may experience nervousness, periodically ask yourself the following three questions. Doing so will distract yourself from more self-destructive thoughts. Make it your mantra:
  1. Am I breathing?
  2. Am I relaxed?
  3. Am I moving with grace?

18. What is Comfortable for You?

Going to bars and clubs isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. Understand what feels comfortable for you, and find people, communities and activities which bring out the best in you. You can be just as equally social in settings that you connect with on a personal level, than the popular social settings. You don’t have to be doing what “everyone” else is doing. Besides, everyone else isn’t necessarily happy, despite your perception as such.

19. Focus on the Moment

Becoming mindful of what you’re doing, regardless of what you’re doing, will take focus away from the self. When you are having a conversation, forget about how you look, focus on the words, fall into the words, become absorbed in the words. The tones. The expression. Appreciate it and give gratitude for it.

20. Seek and Record Your Successes

As you overcome this condition we’ve been labeling as shyness, you will have many wins and realizations about yourself. You will gain insights into the truth behind social scenarios. You will start to view yourself differently and come to recognize that you can become comfortable and confident. When these wins and realizations happen, make sure to keep a notebook and write them down. Keeping a journal of your successes will not only boost self confidence, but also shift your focus towards something that can benefit you.

source: thinksimplenow.com

Hornbill International Rock Contest Underway

Hornbill International Rock Contest (HNRC) 2013 presented by Airtel would kick-start Friday at Naga Solidarity Park, Kohima.

On day five, Alo Wanth, Making Merry and Parikrama enthralled the crowds. Altogether 27 bands are set to compete for the highest prize money from across the India and abroad.

The organizers have asked all participating bands to report at the Nag Solidarity Park by 10 a.m., December 6 for draw of lots/sequence followed by briefing from MTF project director G. Chishi.
The audition will take place on December 6, 7, 8 and 9 (declaration of the 9 finalist). During the event, band from the UK will also perform as special guest band.

The grand finale would be held on December, 10. The Hornbill International Rock Contest (HIRC) 2013 from December 6 to 10 is also part of the annual Hornbill Festival, the annual cultural extravaganza in Nagaland showcasing the rich Naga culture, organized by the state government’s Music Task Force (MTF), department of Youth Resources and Sports and the event is managed by XL.

Source: nagalandpost

Manipur’s Sankirtana in UNESCO’s list of intangible heritage

Paris, Dec 6 : The Sankirtana — ritual singing, drumming and dancing of Manipur — along with Bangladesh’s Jamdani weaving and traditional Japanese

The Intergovernmental Committee for the Safeguarding of Intangible Heritage, holding its 8th session until December 7 in the Azerbaijani capital Baku, last night inscribed 14 elements on the Representative List of the Intangible Cultural Heritage of Humanity.

A screengrab from youtube. A screengrab from youtube. The list serves to raise awareness of intangible heritage and provide recognition to communities’ traditions and know-how that reflect their cultural diversity. “Sankirtana encompasses an array of arts performed to mark religious occasions and various stages in the life of the Vaishnava people.

Drummers and singer-dancers enact the lives and deeds of Krishna through devotional songs that often produce an ecstatic reaction among devotees,” UNESCO said of the Indian art form. “Sankirtana takes place on public festive and religious occasions that unite the community, and is also performed to commemorate individual life-cycle ceremonies.

The whole society is involved in its safeguarding, with the specific knowledge and skills traditionally transmitted from mentor to disciple,” it said.

The other heritages include the traditional use of the abacus for counting in China and a Christian festival in the French region of Limousin. Other additions are Belgian horseback shrimp fishing, the annual pilgrimage to the mausoleum of Sidi Abd el-Qader Ben Mohammed in Algeria; Taureg Imzad music; the Cirio de Nazare religious festival in Brazil; a central Italian Catholic procession; an Orthodox holiday in Ethiopia and a Kyrgyz epic poem.

Ancient Georgian traditional Qvevri wine-making method, a naming tradition common amongst the people of Western Uganda and Mongolian calligraphy also made it to the list.

Washoku cooking methods was among 14 new entries added to UNESCO’s list of “intangible heritage” in need of being preserved.